It’s that time of year again. Every January I get this weird idea that I should open a gym called Resolutions and in February switch it to a bar. I think Resolutions are great, only if you are serious, otherwise I think people just set them self up for failure. Resolutions are great intentions if you set the bar at a reachable level. For instance saying “I will quit smoking, lose 70lbs and start exercising!” you might be setting yourself up to join my new gym/bar. Which is great I’ll need the business but not so great for your self-esteem.
Maybe resolutions would be a better fit if you decided on something more attainable. Hmmmm, let’s see, I will mow my lawn every weekend I am not hung over. This seems a bit more practical to me. Or what about, I will not eat the entire package of cookies when I open it. Ok, I know, this one might be farfetched. How about, I will fold the laundry when it comes out of the dryer instead of keeping it in the basket or laying it nicely on my bedroom chair for a week. See, this one is way easier and helps keep your clothes organized.
Basically what I’m jabbering on about is not setting yourself up for failure. Yes, make goals but not just in January. You should have goals in life and be flexible about them. We all remember when we were 19 and our goals were amazing, how many people actually live those exact goals? I was having lunch with a friend of mine about 5 years ago and it was the local schools Senior Skip Day. We were seated next to a table of 4 high school senior girls. Yes, we were eavesdropping on their conversation, when one girl stated: “By the time I am 25 I will have my Master’s degree, be married to a wonderful man and have an awesome career. If you guys are my friends you will shoot me at 25 if I haven’t done this.” Of course being the smart ass I am, I leaned over to the table and told them to shoot her now. I would love to know where that girl is now and how far she has gotten in life.
I am not saying don’t set high goals, I absolutely think you should, what I am saying is set goals that are achievable and be flexible. Life happens and not the way we always think it will. Take this time during “Resolution Month” and set a different group of goals. Maybe a five year plan that you revise next January if needed. Yes, I have an unrealistic goal in life, I want to be Black Widow. I also know this will never happen at my age. lol. But my other goal of dating Captain America, totally achievable.